Stop Chasing Love
Start feeling it.
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This Week’s Music for Grooving
Check out some of the recommendations from this week’s episode.
Tina Turner - What’s Love Got To Do With It
What if the problem isn’t whether people love you, but whether you actually feel it?
In this episode full of feels, Sonja Lyubomirsky joins us to explore a powerful idea: you can be surrounded by love and still feel disconnected. Often, there’s a hidden gap between what we perceive and what’s actually happening. What we feel might not always be accurate, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to feel it. In our conversation, based on her latest book How to Feel Loved, Sonja explains why that gap exists and what we can do to close it.
We talk about the psychology of feeling loved, bust a few myths about love languages, and explore what curiosity, vulnerability, and conversation can do for your love life. Sonja walks us through five key mindsets that shift how we relate to others and help plant the seeds for stronger relationships. This is not a how-to guide, but an invitation to shift your perspective on how you both give and receive love.
We also challenge some long-held beliefs about what you need to do to be loved and unpack why “if only” thinking holds us back from reaching our full potential. If you want to build meaningful connections, it starts with curiosity. If you are curious about love, or feeling unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally distant, we invite you to listen in and open your heart to new possibilities.
Want to watch this episode? Check it out on our YouTube Channel
Talking to Strangers
Did you know that simply having a meaningful conversation can significantly increase your happiness? Longtime fans of the show will now that friend of the pod, Nick Epley, has long evangelized this concept.
Research shows that people consistently underestimate how much others want to connect. In reality, asking deeper questions and showing genuine curiosity makes both people feel closer, more understood, and yes, more loved.
So what are you waiting for? The next time your in line for coffee, try striking up a conversation. It may just lead to a new connection.
Remaking Love
Want to rethink what love actually looks like in everyday life? In this TEDx talk, Barbara Fredrickson challenges the idea that love is something rare or reserved for close relationships. Instead, she shows how love is built in small, shared moments of connection, like a smile, a laugh, or a brief conversation. If this episode got you thinking about how to feel more loved, this talk is a great next step.
Housekeeping
If you want to know more about today’s guest or this week’s grooving, check out the links below!
How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis
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